Reminder to Self SERIES: “I am…” | Watch What You Say

Reminder to Self:  “You are what you say you are; WATCH WHAT YOU SAY.”

“I am… “

Catholic / spiritual / not terribly religious / one with the universe / white / tan / feminine / masculine / a teacher / a student / a procrastinator / a writer / an artist / an impostor / frightened / confident / friendly / sociable / a loner / not as good as / as good as / good enough / forgiving / sometimes unforgiving / fluid / rigid / smart / unsure / convinced / unconvinced / someone’s daughter / someone’s wife / someone’s stepmom / someone’s aunt / not a mother / my own person / good with numbers / terrible with names / funny / shy / silly / hopeful / sad / calm / sometimes angry / not a follower / not exactly a leader / often fearful / able to overcome fear / often anxious / able to overcome anxiety / less anxious than I used to be / able to love / able to be loved / lacking in confidence / willing to try / persistent / sometimes overwhelmed / sometimes detached / often connected / vulnerable / willing to be vulnerable / awkward / in control / able to release control / capable / conflicted / clever / competent / sometimes lost / getting better at being present / grateful.

 

In this body, I am all of these.

Beyond this body, I am more than all of these.

I am also none of these.

I simply am.

 

I am exactly where I’m meant to be at all times.

I am learning.

I am growing.

I am.

 

I am of the source of all things that created me.

I am also one who creates.

I am.

 

I am whatever I feel in the moment.

I am whatever I tell myself about what I feel in the moment.

“I am… [   fill in the blank  ].”

 

The more I say whatever it is I say about myself, the more firmly I identify with whatever it is I say about myself, and the more I become and/or remain what I most say I am.

The same goes for my situation…

The more I say whatever it is I say about my situation, the more firmly I identify with whatever it is I say about my situation, and the more my situation becomes and/or remains what I most say it is.

If I want to avoid more negative outcomes in my daily life in favor of more positive outcomes, it requires I start by watching what I say about myself and how often I say it. I can feel what I feel, but I have to squeeze my big toe in there when it comes to dealing with the darker feelings, the darker side of what I’m identifying with and how that will affect me for the rest of the day and the rest of my life. Whatever I want most from the world and others is what I most need to give myself, whether that’s more kindness, less judgment, more understanding, less drama, or just more feel-good feelings and outcomes in my life.

When I allow darker feelings to linger for too long, it’s like I’m purposely punishing myself for having normal feelings like sadness/anger/fear, which just allows those feelings to multiply exponentially and completely consume me. The negative rhetoric I feed myself comes from EITHER living in my past and past experiences where old stories play out over and over but facts cannot be changed OR living in the future where I imagine endless terrible outcomes, most of which won’t happen. When I’m kinder to myself, when I actively practice dropping any negative labels I assign to normal feelings like sadness/anger/fear, I’m more likely to be kinder with others and less likely to permanently label them as well.

By changing how I speak to and handle myself, I change how I speak to and handle others, and that becomes a chain reaction in the world.

I am helping others by helping myself.

I am entirely capable of this AND MORE.

I am responsible for this AND MORE, by virtue of being gifted this life I’m living.

I know my purpose.

I am here for a purpose.

I am.

Peace,

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